A letter to you.
June 14, 2018.
A little over 4 months ago I did not know you even existed.
One day out of the blue a follow request would change things in my life in more ways than one.
The first major hurdle that had to be overcome was our tremendous age difference. You have been very persistent while my own children have been supportive. Everyone keeps saying that age is just a number. It took me a while to realize this was true. Letting go of old-fashioned notions about relationships and friendships was the hardest part.
The second obstacle to face was the very different backgrounds and cultures we both have. I, being older, have had many life experiences, jobs, and relationships. I am in the phase of life where I am supposed to be settling down but that has never been entirely me. I still seek out new things in life with the knowledge and confidence that has become a part of who I am. You are still learning and growing with youthful thoughts, hopes, ideas, and dreams. Yet, together this seems to work. We are thinking in the same direction. I can only hope that I am there to see you accomplish what you want in life and for you to be there when I accomplish mine. We will be our own personal cheering section.
The last thing we are still working on and trying to overcome is the distance. Being in two places in the world on opposite sides of this big floating rock hurdling through space and time. Thank goodness for the internet, social media, cell phones, and computers. The only downside has been the hit and miss on communication. Partly due to our age differences and the way we think. A lot has to do with my own personal issue with trust and relationships but it’s getting better. You have been a very a patient person. Most others would have given up on me before the first month. I want to thank you for being such a kind, caring, and understanding person.
I know that I am a difficult person. I have high expectations of everyone I meet and most could not understand what I want to accomplish, so they left. I’ve traveled this far, pretty much on my own, but always believing that the person meant for me was still out there, somewhere. I also became aware the last few years that even though the things that happened when I was a child were done and over with, I was still dragging that along too. I finally started cutting loose most of that two years ago. The perspective I have on the rest of my life is different now. You remind me every day that life is worth living. You have done what no other person in my life has ever done; you made me truly care about you and feel that I was truly cared about too as we progress.
I don’t know if the plans we have discussed or made will come to fruition. We are both working diligently toward them but only time will tell. I can only hope that our friendship and bond with each other will continue to get stronger every day. I look forward to future conversations, disagreements, and just learning more with you.
Love you always,